Before I get started, I just wanted to say how much I love the Hump Day topics. Julie does such a wonderful job of getting us to think and it’s fun to see where other people went with the prompt. Thanks! If you are interested in more Hump Day submissions, or, even better, want to participate, click here.
This weeks’ topic is about making new friends and keeping the old. I’ve made a lot of new friends recently as a result of NaBlo and regular blogging. It’s kind of like a giant cocktail party. You poke around, introduce yourself, join in some conversations, sample the buffet. It’s awesome. But I’m leading a double life. I haven’t told any of my friends, except my spouse, about this blog. Seriously.
I don’t know why. They’re my friends; you’d think I could rely on them for support. And an instant audience. So why am I’m so hesitant to invite my old friends to the party?
I mean really. I haven’t talked about any of them, so I probably wouldn’t piss any of them off. I keep thinking that I’m going to go off on some sort of rant about Stepford, but it hasn’t happened (yet). The closest I’ve come was complaining about some people in my orchestra. So I’m starting to feel kind of bad about this. I almost slipped last night at my book club by saying “Hey, remember that book we read earlier this year? I’m talking about it on my blog today!” I should bring these people in to share, don’t ya think?
Maybe I’m just selfish. I’m also pretty bad about telling people about orchestra performances. Orchestra is one of the few things I do for just me, and bringing other people in feels like an intrusion sometimes. If I keep the blog private as well, then I’m preserving space that’s just mine. Yeah, that sounds pretty lame to me, too.
Am I embarrassed that I’m blogging? Ummm, don’t think so. I’m not talking about anything that I wouldn’t discuss with them. If it came up that is. Maybe that’s the difference. Online, I’m just the blog. In Stepford, I’m Thing 1 and Thing 2’s mom, or spouse of Spouse and conversations tend to get mired in that sort of thing. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, but perhaps the blog gives me a chance to spread my wings a little.
I should give my friends more credit. Real friends would appreciate being able to see another side of me. If they see what I write on the blog, then we could talk about other things besides Stepford-talk. And perhaps it would encourage them to spread their wings as well. We’re all kind of looking to define ourselves again apart from our kids, and online is a pretty good place to do it.
So, new friends, I think I’ll be bringing more friends to the party today. I’m leaving for a Bible Study in a few minutes, so I’ll start there. After that, I’ll send an email to my other pals to let them know. Make sure there’s plenty of dip!
Update at 2:30 pm CST: I’m such a chicken s**t. Had plenty of opportunity at WBS, but didn’t. Guess I will have to do the email.